Introduction
Travel photos don’t always tell the full story.
From mountain-top kisses to romantic boat rides, couple selfies often paint a picture-perfect narrative. But behind some of these carefully framed moments can lie a much darker reality—one of emotional instability, manipulation, or even danger.
The recent and horrifying murder of Raja Raghuwanshi by his wife Sonam during their honeymoon in Shillong is a tragic example. Their social media showed love and laughter. But behind those smiles, a murder was being planned.
This blog isn’t about fear. It’s about awareness—learning to spot emotional and behavioral red flags while travelling with a partner, no matter how dreamy the trip may seem.
The Mask of Social Media
Many couples curate their trips online to appear perfect. They post:
- Smiling selfies in front of waterfalls
- Romantic boomerangs in cafes
- Hashtags like #couplegoals and #soulmate
But none of that guarantees emotional health in the relationship. In the Shillong case, even a day before the murder, Sonam and Raja appeared happy online. And yet, he was being lured into a carefully planned crime.
So what are the red flags couples—and especially newlyweds—should watch for while travelling?
1. Extreme Mood Swings
If your partner suddenly switches from loving to distant or angry without explanation, pay attention. Vacations can be stressful, but consistent emotional rollercoasters may indicate deeper issues.
Look out for:
- Passive-aggressive behavior
- Sudden silence after an argument
- Overly dramatic reactions to minor problems
2. Over-Control or Isolation
Is your partner insisting on controlling every aspect of the trip—where to go, who to talk to, what to wear?
This may seem like protectiveness, but it can often mask possessiveness or control issues.
🚩 They don’t want you talking to others.
🚩 They get upset when you share trip updates with friends/family.
🚩 They insist on private, remote locations—cutting you off from help.
3. Financial Secrecy or Manipulation
Money can be a stress point, especially on trips. But if your partner hides expenses, avoids joint budgeting, or manipulates spending, it can be a warning sign.
In Sonam’s case, it later came to light that money (a ₹20 lakh murder plot) was part of the conspiracy. Though this is extreme, secrecy around finances during travel is always a red flag.
4. Constant Phone Secrecy
If your partner is:
- Hiding their phone screen
- Getting texts at odd hours and stepping away
- Angry when you ask who they’re texting
…it could mean there’s something to hide.
In the Shillong case, Sonam reportedly stayed in constant contact with her ex-boyfriend during the honeymoon. Emotional cheating often precedes more dangerous betrayal.
5. Disregard for Your Comfort or Consent
Does your partner ignore your needs during travel? Are you forced into uncomfortable activities, hotels, or locations?
Your safety and comfort should always be respected—especially when away from home. Disregarding your well-being is not just inconsiderate; it can be dangerous.
Emotional Abuse is Abuse—Even on a Vacation
Many people brush off their partner’s toxic behavior on trips, thinking, “It’s just travel stress.” But emotional manipulation, gaslighting, and subtle threats are signs of deeper issues.
Couples don’t magically become better because they’re on vacation. If anything, travel amplifies whatever is already there.
Safety Tips for Travelling Couples
✅ Share your travel itinerary with friends or family
✅ Keep GPS/location sharing on if you feel unsafe
✅ Carry a backup mobile with emergency contacts
✅ Have a financial exit plan—don’t be 100% dependent
✅ Listen to your gut—discomfort is often a signal
Final Thoughts
Behind the selfies, behind the “perfect honeymoon” captions, sometimes lies a silence we don’t talk about—until it’s too late.
The Sonam Raghuwanshi case reminds us that no destination, no Instagram story, and no hashtag is worth ignoring emotional or safety red flags. If something feels off, trust yourself.
Awareness isn’t unromantic. It’s protection.
